There is a benefit to using the Creighton Model FertilityCare System that is often overlooked. It is a hidden treasure waiting to be discovered and deliver its many rewards upon the couple and their marriage. Dr. Hilgers likes to refer to it as the “Inner Soul” of sexuality.
The use of the Creighton Model FertilityCare System requires a couple to adopt a new form of behavior and attitude towards their sexuality, especially if they are wanting to avoid a pregnancy and so must periodically avoid genital contact. This can often be thought of as a “side effect” or “complication” of using the System. But in reality, it is probably the most important behavioral component in the use of the System because it offers the couple the opportunity to view and appreciate the totality of their sexuality and enjoy the fruits of this discovery. It is what we refer to as SPICE.
SPICE is the development of true sexual interaction which involves the total person one to another and therefore is multidimensional. It is Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Creative and Emotional (S-P-I-C-E). Couples discover how to communicate in non-genital ways which lays the groundwork for a lasting and joy-filled marriage. This is important for all couples, whether they are avoiding genital contact or not.
Trust in a relationship comes from this non-genital form of communication leading to a liberating, loving and permanent communion between man and woman. In addition, this trust and enhanced communication results in intercourse that has a deeper meaning and quality that is elevated.
SPICE and the development of this sexual interaction can be challenging for the couple because it requires that a couple look beyond just the physical, external and erotic and focus on the internal and personal. It challenges the couple to be sexually whole; to look at, learn and adapt to this wholeness.
We will be looking more closely at different aspects of SPICE and the treasure that it holds for the couple who use the Creighton Model FertilityCare System. The goal of the series will be to help couples implement this revolutionary new sexual interaction in their marriages.