Celebrating 15 Years of SPICE


Has it only been 15 years since the concept of SPICE was introduced? No. 

The concept of SPICE and how it relates to intimacy and sexuality in marriage has been around as long as the Creighton Model FertilityCare System, which is well over 30 years.

I celebrated my 15th wedding anniversary last week.  I honestly cannot believe I have been blessed to be married to the man of my dreams for 15 years.  It still feels like yesterday that we were walking down the aisle to start our new life together.

My husband and I have been through many ups and downs throughout our 15 years of marriage.  We have been blessed to welcome 6 children into our family.  Unfortunately, we have also had to say goodbye to 2 of our children, Maryrose 4 years ago and Mary Catherine 3 months ago. 

Losing a child can either bring a couple together or tear them apart.

The stress of building a life together with children and jobs, dreams and goals can really take a toll on a marriage. 

Even using a natural system of family planning can create stress at times.  It is not always a picnic or happy days when you are dealing with hormone issues as well as other health issues.

What has helped us these last 15 years build a joy-filled, deeply intimate, permanent communion with one another?


You know I LOVE talking about SPICE!  In fact, I love the concept so much that I wrote an eBook about it called SPICE: A Guide to an Intimate Marriage!

The reason I love the concept of SPICE so much is because I have witnessed it working in my own marriage as well as my client’s marriages.  The proof is in the pudding as they say!

Dr. Hilgers, the creator of the Creighton Model and NaProTechnology, has created a way to improve communication and build intimacy that really works.

And, the best part about it is that it is so simple and easy to implement.  If you are like me and super busy, you NEED something that is simple and easy. 

What is SPICE?

Some of you may be new to the blog and wondering what I am talking about.  SPICE is a holistic way to view sexuality and intimacy.

SPICE views our sexuality as involving the whole person.  We can view our sexuality as being Spiritual, Intellectual, Communicative, and Emotional.

And, when we view our sexuality as involving the whole person and not just our genitals, a whole new world can open up to us.  We can learn to communicate with our spouse in a whole new way that leads to a more intimate and joy-filled marriage.

Time and again, my husband and I go back to the concepts of SPICE when we are struggling with communication.  We challenge ourselves:

  • Are we doing anything spiritually together? Are we praying together?
  • Are we enjoying activities together that may or may not include the kids?
  • Are we taking the time to share our dreams, goals and interests with each other?
  • Are we making sure we communicate our love with each other on a daily basis?
  • Are we sharing our joys, sadness, troubles, anger, etc. with one another?

Sometimes we are doing well in most areas, but usually we need improvement.   This happened recently after the loss of our daughter, Mary Catherine.  We had stopped communicating.  The stress of losing our baby was taking a toll on our relationship.   I was isolating myself in my storm of grief.

My husband is so awesome.  He took me aside and challenged us both.  We went back to the simple concept of SPICE to get back our communication.  We regained our intimacy and have a stronger marriage because of it.

But, this is only one example.  I have a long list of many other times in our marriage where we have let the busyness of life make a wedge between us.

I must give the credit to my husband for always being attuned to how our communication is doing in our marriage.  He has a gift and I am blessed to have him.  He is always striving to put our marriage first. 

I see the concept of SPICE as a gift that we received when we learned the Creighton Model FertilityCare System.  But, it is not just for users of the Creighton Model or even for those who only use a natural system for family planning.

I see the concept of SPICE as a gift for all couples.  It is so simple and easy to use, who wouldn’t benefit?

So, how do you learn more about this great gift of SPICE?  I have many blogposts about SPICE and how it can relate to couples and singles alike.  I even have posts about each of the aspects of SPICE.

But, if you want ALL of this information in one location that is easy to access AND includes printable worksheets to help you implement these concepts on a daily basis, I highly recommend you purchase my eBook SPICE: A Guide to an Intimate Marriage! 

You can also join the FREE 7 Day SPICE It Up Challenge coming February 7, 2017!

  • 7 daily challenges to reconnect with your spouse. 
  • Access to a private Facebook group for support and accountability.
  • Free printable worksheets to help put the daily challenges into action.
  • Free preview chapter of my eBook that explains what true intimacy and sexuality is supposed to be in marriage.
  • Discount on my eBook during the Challenge.

If you take the time {even just a little time} each day for your spouse, I can say it does pay out in dividends.  SPICE gives you simple and easy tools to do just that!

I hope you will join me for the 7 Day SPICE It Up Challenge today to reconnect with spouse and improve communication!