Be Your Own Valentine: Simple Ways to Improve Self-Care Using SPICE


During the month of January, we focused on improving our overall and fertility health through the 31 Day Fertility Care Challenge.

Today I want to discuss the importance of taking care of yourself.  Basically, how to be your own valentine this month by putting yourself on the list.

It is so easy to put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own and think this is how it should be.   You may have small children at home or a demanding job or family situation where this just comes naturally for you.   It is important to take care of others and to serve others with love.

But, we cannot give all we have if we are not filling our cup as well.  Our health and wellbeing is just as important as the ones we take care of in our life. 

If we do not make it a priority to take care of ourselves and our health, we will quickly burnout and our health will begin to deteriorate.  Then we won’t be able to help anyone.

The month of Love is a great opportunity to check in and see how we are doing with self-care. 

Are you struggling with taking time for yourself due to the busyness of your life circumstances?

I often refer to SPICE when I am speaking about marriage.  SPICE stands for Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Creative/Communicative and Emotional/Pyschological.   SPICE covers the different aspects of a person and their sexuality. 

SPICE is used to improve communication but can also be used as a guide to help us with our self-care.

Here are some simple ways to use SPICE for self-care:


  • Spend 10 minutes in prayer
  • Read a spiritual book
  • Read some Bible verses


  • Take a walk outside
  • Do a short exercise video workout
  • Get a massage


  • Read a book you have been putting off reading
  • Write down some dreams and goals for yourself


  • Schedule a lunch or dinner date with a friend you haven’t seen in awhile
  • Do something small for a friend or neighbor in need


  • Journal your thoughts and feelings
  • Take a quick nap to refresh yourself
  • Take a relaxing bath or shower

It can be challenging to put yourself on the schedule if you are not used to doing that.  I know.  I am so used to going from one thing to the next that I forget to take a few minutes each day to just to rest and recharge.

I have found that the days I carve out a small amount of time for myself are the days I am energized and feel like I can give more of myself to others.

Take some time this month to put yourself on the schedule and to take care of yourself and your health. 

You and your family and friends will thank you.